All good (and not so good) things must come to an end and if you've recently undergone a break-up, you know that the transition out of a relationship can be simultaneously intense, challenging and exciting. Wherever you are in your post-relationship evolution, we've got some advice to help you move on and thrive in the next stage of your life:
Make it a clean break. I know it’s tempting to want to check in once in a while or catch up for old time’s sake, but if you’re still not over him and are struggling to get back into the dating game, remaining friends can do more harm than good. You don’t have to pretend that he never existed or go out of your way to avoid him at all costs, but you can’t support one another through a tough break-up or you’ll remain reliant on one another for support.
Change your daily routine. Sometimes the hardest part of a break-up isn’t the loss of companionship, but the major shift in...
Have your kids ever walked in on you in the heat of the moment? Did you ever catch your parents gettin' busy when you were younger? Dr. Jess’ Facebook followers shared their views on this topic a few months back. Here’s what they had to say…
"Why is it ok for children to see violence, yet any source of affection or lovemaking is frowned upon?" - Todd
"You didn't mean to have an orgy in front of your child. You do what you can do to ensure you and your partner are alone. But is it really that awful to have a child walk in on you?" - Chantal
"I walked in on my parents and years later after their divorce I walked in on my mother and her boyfriend too. Not exactly what I wanted to see and wouldn't recommend to others, but it wasn't devastating and hell bounding. Didn't make me need a shrink. The fighting in the home did though." - Bob
"I think we raise better quality individuals when we share respect and honor our flesh. Make it normal...
Earlier this week, Jess hosted a Facebook Live broadcast in partnership with a cool new dating app, Zepeel. In the video below, she shares fun, practical and effective tips to make online dating more effective. Give it a watch and be sure to leave your top dating tips in the comments here.
Jess’ top tips summarized:
1. Creep your “competition”. Although fellow daters aren’t technically your competition, reading through profiles of similar daters (e.g. people of the same gender, age and region) will inspire you to craft a more effective profile. Questions to ask yourself: What do these profiles have in common? Do I want to avoid repetitive content (e.g. cliches)? What makes a profile stand out? How can I differentiate my profile?
2. Use your Twitter or Snap feed to populate your profile. It’s an accurate picture of your recent interests and activities. Share a few of your top tweets (without revealing your handle).
3. Ask your friends to write you a...
March Break is upon us which means that some of the busiest travel days of the year are just around the corner. And though vacations are supposed to be relaxing, many couples find that relationship strife spikes while they're on holiday. Jess joined Jeff McArthur to discuss the science of vacation fights and tips for enjoying a harmonious holiday. Watch The Global Morning Show segment replay below.
The Science of Vacation Fights:
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Speaking of which, did you know that orgasms are actually incredibly beneficial for our physical and mental wellbeing? The last time you had a headache how did you deal with it? How about next time you throw away the pills and activate your brain’s innate ability to produce natural pain fighting chemicals. Yes that’s right, orgasms cause our brain to produce and release loads of pain fighting endorphins. Research has shown that these brain hormones not only work on pain associated with headaches but other types of body pain as well. Endorphins along with circulating adrenaline and other hormones also explain why our pain tolerance is higher during sex.
What else happens in our brain during sex you ask? Sex leads to changes in parts of our brain (the hippocampus) responsible for memory consolidation. Sex better equips our brain to cope and respond to stressful situations. It can help induce sleep, especially in men, due mostly to a...
Sex and the brain is an area of active scientific investigation. Studying the brain helps us understand the big why questions in sex science.
Sex is so much more complicated then just the act itself; it encompasses all of the attitudes, thoughts, and behaviours that revolve around it. Our sexual experiences aren’t only about having an intense orgasm but everything that comes before that. So you can imagine that there is an infinite number of why questions that have been asked and are still being asking today. The answers to these questions can help us not only better understand typical human sexuality but also it’s variations. There really isn’t a right or wrong when it comes to sexual experiences grounded in consent. One thing is certain though, having a healthy sex life starts with your psychological wellbeing. Poorly managed stress has consistently been linked to lower levels of sexual desire, contributes to a negative body image and often has an...
By: Michelle Fraser, PT, BA, BScPT, FCAMPT, CYT, MEd and Chia Chia Sun, BSc, MSc, MBA
Pelvic health physiotherapy has recently become a more visible and accessible form of physical therapy. In 2012, the Standards for Practice for Physiotherapists described by the College of Physiotherapists of Ontario were changed to include “assessing or rehabilitating pelvic musculature relating to incontinence or pain disorders” – this type of physiotherapy may include vaginal or rectal assessment and treatment.
Attention to our pelvic health is important for women as we age. Many women work with a pelvic health physiotherapist to treat conditions such as urinary incontinence (involuntary leakage of urine) and pain with intercourse. Urinary incontinence and pain with sexual activity are often related to vaginal atrophy, which refers to shrinkage of the vaginal tissue leading to thinning of the walls typically after menopause or hormonal depletion.
How long does it take you to like an online dating profile? And how long does it take to meet in person after your first online encounter? When does the average dater say "I love you"? And when do new couples move in together?
Check out Happn's data below and take a look at their app which connects you to users you've crossed paths with in real life.
Imagine courtesy of Happn. This data refers to daters looking for opposite sex partners.
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3. Minimize Negative Triggers
We all have our ups and downs and it would be futile to attempt to eliminate all sources of negativity. However we can minimize exposure to unnecessary triggers that tend to promote a less than positive attitude toward our bodies.
If certain social circles, individuals, television shows or even social media updates leave you feeling inadequate, you may want to reframe or reconsider how often you embrace these connections. Surrounding yourself with people who focus on their positive attributes while acknowledging that their body is only one component of their whole selves will help you to do the same.
4. Accept a Little Jealousy!
In our culture, we tend to view jealousy as unconditionally negative. It is often dismissed as a sign of weakness or low self-esteem when this is not always the case. In fact, we all experience some feelings of jealousy and since it is
difficult (near-impossible) to directly control our ...
Tips for feeling better about your body after cancer:
Feeling great about our bodies is no easy task and negative perceptions of the way we look run rampant among all women. Add the side-effects of chemo, radiation, surgeries, drugs and medical probing into the mix and it’s no surprise that most women diagnosed with cancer also struggle to love and embrace their bodies.
But body image is less about the way you look and more about the way you feel about your body. It is a core component of self-worth and impacts the ways in which we relate to ourselves and others. It is also key to sexual functioning and positive body image is positively correlated with levels of desire, orgasm and sexual satisfaction.
An overwhelming number of women living with cancer diagnoses report a decline in sexual desire and many connect body image issues with this side effect. And while sex may be the farthest thing from your mind during treatment and recovery, feeling as comfortable and...