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Whether you're looking to last longer or just heighten your sexual experience, pelvic floor exercises are every sex-lover's best friend. Not only do they lead to more powerful orgasms, but they can also optimize sexual arousal, response, functioning and orgasmic control by increasing blood flow to the pelvic region and toning the muscles that support the pelvic organs and stabilize the core muscles.
The pelvic floor includes the two layers of muscles that sling from the tailbone in the back to the pubic bone in the front. To practice pelvic floor exercises, you first have to learn to recognize and isolate the muscles. There are a few ways to do this:
1. While peeing, stop the flow of urine. If you're able to interrupt its flow, you are contracting your pelvic floor muscles. You should feel a pulling-up sensation as opposed to the feeling of bearing down used during a bowel movement. (Though you can use this technique to learn to identify...
Apparently, G is for more than just the G-Spot. I had difficulty choosing from all the awesome options once again, but here is a sampling:
An irrational or exaggerated fear of marriage.
Sex in which the penis is inserted and stimulated between a partner’s knees. Use lube for this one — unless you like chafed knees.
Acronym for the Girlfriend Experience which refers to a type of service offered by female sex workers. The exact description will vary from person to person, but it often involves interacting with the client as a girlfriend would and may include a range of interactive activities beyond sex.
A hole in a wall between rooms or bathroom stalls into which a penis (or other object) can be inserted for manual, oral or other sexual stimulation. Make sure there are no rough edges around the hole! If you’re nervous about putting your hose in the hole, you can always sit...
New relationship sex and sex-on-the-fly may burn up your sheets, but as routine and increased comfort levels settle in it can be hard to keep things hot in the bedroom. What’s a frisky girl to do? Try out these strategies to reignite your sex life and feel free to share your own.
One easy way to keep sex hot and keep your partner guessing is to initiate sex in unexpected locations. Leave the boring old bedroom behind and surprise your partner at work, in the shower, at the theatre, in the car, at the dinner table or in the kitchen. Obviously take the necessary safety precautions, think beyond intercourse and be aware of the laws in your area. Nothing turns a sweet sex session sour faster than a visit from the local authorities or a trip to the emergency room – trust me on this one.
Another simple way to make relationship sex hotter is to play with your timing. Instead of having sex right before you nod off to sleep, try it out in the morning or afternoon....
New relationship sex and sex-on-the-fly may burn up your sheets, but as routine and increased comfort levels settle in it can be hard to keep things hot in the bedroom. What’s a frisky girl to do? Try out these strategies to reignite your sex life.
One easy way to keep sex hot and keep your partner guessing is to initiate sex in unexpected locations. Leave the boring old bedroom behind and surprise your partner at work, in the shower, at the theatre, in the car, at the dinner table or in the kitchen. Obviously, take the necessary safety precautions, think beyond intercourse and be aware of the laws in your area. Nothing turns a sweet sex session sour faster than a visit from the local authorities or a trip to the emergency room – trust me on this one.
Another simple way to make relationship sex hotter is to play with your timing. Instead of having sex right before you nod off to sleep, try it out in the morning or afternoon. You’ll never wake up on the...
Oh, the lovely letter F. It really is quite a mouthful. There are so many great words to choose from, but here is a little sampling…
Refers to inserting a very – and I mean very well-lubricated hand into the vagina or anus. If you want to work toward fisting, be sure to proceed very gradually beginning with a small finger and then adding a few more. Be sure to trim your nails and remove all jewellery. Whether you’re fisting a vagina or an anus, communication is of utmost importance to ensure that both you and your partner are comfortable proceeding. It may be most comfortable for the fistee to lie on his/her back with the knees bent and legs spread. The fister should gradually insert more lubricated fingers with the palm facing upward toward the belly. Once all four fingers are inserted as far as the second set of knuckles, the thumb can be tucked into the palm so that the hand forms a beak-like shape. Continue progressing...
Erogenous Zones are sensitive areas of the body that may produce a sexual response when stimulated. Though the obvious erogenous zones include the breasts, nipples, anus, perineum, testicles, penis (really?) and the vulva, the whole body has the potential to be one big super-awesome erogenous zone. Here are a few other erogenous areas that may spark your interest:
1. The inner bend of the elbow where the forearm meets the upper arm. Play with this crease gently and see how your partner responds.
2. The Philthrum – this is the little indentation between the upper lip and the nose. Try playing with your partner’s philthrum with your lips, tongue and breath while kissing. Or you can get creative and stimulate the philthrum during oral sex play.
3. The Collarbone – in my Erogenous Exploration workshops, this is the body part to which women seem to respond most favourably and with the greatest surprise.
An Erection is part of a physiological...
Dildos are sex toys designed for vaginal or anal penetration and they can take on a variety of shapes and textures. Though dildos don’t move on their own (unlike vibrators), their curves, shapes, sizes and materials make for great sexual props for fun do-it-yourself sex play.
Double Penetration (DP) often refers to the simultaneous penetration of both the vagina and anus by two different objects. While pornography often portrays DP involving one woman and two men, many people partake in DP using one penis and one toy like an anal plug, vibrator or strap-on.
DATY stands for Dining At The Y and is another term for cunnilingus or going down on a woman.
A Daisy Chain is a group sex activity in which all members both give and receive oral sex simultaneously. Named after a string of daisy flowers linked together into a wreath, the sexier version of the daisy chain requires at least three participants to be...
C is for Cupping:
Cupping is a form of sex play in which suction cups are placed on the skin to draw blood to the surface. Cups come in varying sizes (to suit different body parts) and some use a suction cup or vacuum to create suction, while others use heat. Specialty kits designed for the explicit purpose of cupping can be purchased from sex stores and practitioners need to exercise caution when playing with suction and fire. I advise clients to take a workshop to learn about safety measures associated with cupping and discuss safety measures with their local sex-positive retailer.
C is also for the CAT position.
Designed for penile-vaginal intercourse, the CAT offers clitoral stimulation against the male’s pelvic bone. The CAT is a basic modification of the missionary position that involves the man riding up on a woman’s pelvis so they can rock and rub the clitoris against the base of his penis and/or pelvic bone. This is how the CAT breaks down:
BDSM describes sexual play that involves some exchange of power or pain.
B stands for bondage,
D stands for dominance and/or discipline,
S stands for sadism (pleasure associated with inflicting pain) and/or submission and
M stands for masochism (pleasure associated with receiving pain).
Sometimes the terms are grouped together in pairs with BD referring to bondage and discipline, DS standing for dominance and submission, and SM referring to sado-masochism.
While BDSM encompasses a wide range of sexual activities, practitioners tend to play complementary roles that involve some degree of power differentials. However, activities are underscored by the consent of all parties involved and BDSM can be a part of healthy, normal and safer sex play.
Playing out sexual fantasies can be a great way to explore new role-play identities and it is not uncommon for powerful and dominant people to enjoy being submissive during sex play. The desire to engage in elements of BDSM play like pain...
Most of you have probably heard of the G-Spot, but the A-Spot is another exciting zone that can produce intense sexual pleasure as well as rapid lubrication and contractions in some women. Also known as the AFE (Anterior Fornix Erogenous) zone, this area of sensitivity is located at the deepest point of the vagina on the upper (anterior) wall where it begins to curve upwards.
According to Malaysian researcher, Dr. Chua Chee Ann, who is credited with “discovering” the A-Spot, this sensitive area is located beyond the G-Spot just above the cervix. (The cervix is the narrow lower part of the uterus that protrudes into the vagina appearing as a circular or tube-like structure.) Check out the super-awesome Beautiful Cervix Project to learn more about what the cervix looks like.
How to find and stimulate the A-Spot: Dr. Chua’s research suggests that stimulation of the A-Spot can result in increased lubrication in women who experience vaginal...