In my first post I introduced you to the fascinating field of sex science and how studying the brain might help explain some of the big why questions that everyone has about their sex life. What I’d like to do now is come up with some answers to these questions, starting with what most men describe as their biggest sex-related fear…erectile dysfunction.
For those of you who don’t identify as playing an “active” insertive role in sex, don’t exit the screen just yet, I promise you’ll be in the spotlight soon enough. But for now I’d like to focus on the penile partners. We’ve all been there, that moment when it seems like everything to do with sex is up except your penis. Or when you felt as though you were about to orgasm, but couldn’t climax regardless of how hard you focused. If any of these situations apply to you then you’re probably pretty…normal. That’s not to say that for some people...
If you’re looking for signs that your relationship is moving in the right direction, look no further. These science-based indicators can help you to assess your relationship health and potential for longevity.
1. They’re On Your Mind Even When You’re Apart
According to a 2007 survey, thinking about your significant other when you’re not together is a sign of a strong bond with your partner. Those who find it difficult to focus on other matters when thinking about their loved one report stronger feelings of love and connection. Apparently absence not only makes the heart grow fonder, but may also provide a barometer for assessing your relationship.
2. You Have More Fun Than Fights
Though fighting is inevitable in the happiest of relationships, if it dominates your interactions, it may be a sign that your relationship is in jeopardy. Researcher John Gottman suggests that there is an ideal ratio of 5:1 for positive versus negative interactions in terms of...
Dr. Jess kicked off 2017 with a bang, spreading her sexual knowledge across the Great White North from Toronto to Halifax to Montreal and Winnipeg.
Along with the We-Vibe team, she spoke at The Everything to do With Sex Show in Halifax and Le Salon de l’Amour et de la Séduction in Montreal. Delivering 14 speeches and to audiences totalling over 5000 guests, Jess never failed to impress!
Not only did she teach her audiences the handjob to end all blowjobs, but she sold out of her latest book, The New Sex Bible at her book signing sessions and the debut of her webinars, Drive Him/Her Wild With Pleasure, were met with warm Canadian enthusiasm. How else do you expect us to stay warm during the long Canadian winters? Check out a few photos below and press clips below.
In early March, Dr. Jess made a short trip to Winnipeg to speak at McNally Robinson with the University of...
In February 2017, Jess went on tour with Entrepreneur's Organization in the United States. Over the course of two weeks, she visited 9 chapters along the East Coast: Miami, Nashville, Raleigh, Virginia Beach, New York City, Stamford, Washington D.C., Boston and Philadelphia. She worked with entrepreneurs and their partners to improve intimacy and communication in their relationships with the goal of reigniting the spark and strengthening their bond.
Scroll through the photos below from her events and travels.
Check out some of the client feedback below.
Despite a topic that could be embarrassing...she made it super fun! - EO Philadelphia
What a great program! You were truly fabulous...I left the event feeling very respected, loved, and valued as you gave us a platform to share our feelings one on one. I also felt more confident and sexier, which is always a good thing! :)...Your work is very important and I am guessing you have no idea or scope on many...
Continued from Part 1 here...
3. How is Justisse different than the old school rhythm method?
Amy: The Rhythm Method came about due to research in the 1930s that showed that ovulation, on average, occurred about two weeks before menstruation. So using a single biomarker – date of last period – calculations were created to estimate when a person would be fertile. Unfortunately, because cycles are responsive to stress, illness, travel, and diet, this method had a high failure rate because it was based on calculations that presumed regular 25-35 day cycles. In this way, the Rhythm Method is what we call a retrospective or prospective method – it tries to anticipate future cycles based on past cycles. Almost all modern FAM methods, including the Justisse Method, use multiple biomarkers (as above) to account for irregularities in the menstrual cycle.
By tracking mucus and BBT we can anticipate cycles with delayed ovulation and achieve effective contraception...
Hi everyone, my name is Nicole! I’m just your average 23-year-old living in the ever-evolving city of Toronto. Not too long ago, I ended a rocky long-term relationship and set out on a path of self-discovery, new adventures and for the first time, online dating. I was 18 years old when I started seeing my ex-boyfriend, so I was excited and nervous to explore this whole new world (like Jasmine on the back of the magic carpet). I was told that there are plenty of fish in the sea - but Toronto seemed
more like an entire ocean of people each looking for different things.
I downloaded a bunch of apps like Bumble and Tinder, and spent hours agonizing about writing the best possible bio, choosing the most flattering photos, and throwing a dash of cute emojis here and there. Just like the opening of hunting season, I swiped right more times than I care to admit.
I’ve met some strange characters online: married men posing as newly single bachelors, the too...
You're likely familiar with a wide range of birth control options from oral contraceptives to intrauterine systems. But have you heard of Fertility Awareness Methods (FAM) like the Justisse Method of Fertility Management. According to experts, the method is over 99% effective when used correctly, and not only preserves your health and fertility but enhances it by pointing you towards your own health needs and providing a means of monitoring improvement.
I had the opportunity to chat with the Rent Tent Sisters about reproductive health awareness and the Justisse method to learn more about their work and this health-focused approach to birth control. Check out the interview below and if you have any questions, please leave them in the comments below.
What inspired you to create awareness around fertility and reproductive health?
Amy: My work is inspired by my own health journey. As a teenager I had very, very heavy periods and irregular cycles. I had terrible...
Note from Dr. Jess: In this post, guest blogger Kathryn Peterson, offers advice specific to women who perform oral sex on penises. Obviously, people of all genders can enjoy fellatio and female energy is not unique to people who identify as female; regardless of your gender identity, hopefully you can learn from and experiment with these visualization and energy techniques to enhance your sexual pleasure.
Fellatio is not just about men – I’ve learned that by using some ancient practices and new tricks, it can be a deeply intimate and pleasurable experience for both partners! One of my favorite ways to ensure mutual pleasure during fellatio practice, is by cultivating female sexual energy. This is a Taoist technique that has a similar counterpart in Tantra. In both systems, female sex energy begins at our breasts, flows down to our genitalia, and back up to our breasts. The breast is the female positive pole which symbolizes our strong heart center, while the...
The challenge of keeping your relationship exciting and fulfilling is universal. Relationship and sex therapists report that reigniting the passion is one of the most common challenges their clients face despite the fact that few people discuss the struggle publicly.
When long-term couples struggle to "spice up the bedroom" it's often because they have stopped taking the time to make one another feel special by trying new, exciting and fun things -- in and out of the sack. It's easy to fall into patterns and feel like you've done everything under the sun, but there is always a new adventure or sexy activity you can try. Start by trying something simple like setting aside a few hours with your sweetie to reconnect. The process of spicing up the bedroom can be fun and help increase intimacy and connection with your partner. Check out the video below for more info!
Trying new things can have several positive benefits on your relationship including:
Want more passion in your relationship? First you have to understand the science of passionate love and then you can make specific behavioural changes. In the video below, Jess breaks down the science of passion in relationships with Jeff McArthur.
The Science of Passion: