A Newbie's First Experience at Desire Resorts

Uncategorized May 22, 2015

As you probably know, I visit Desire Resorts in Mexico several times per year to facilitate couples workshops, host book signings and recharge my batteries to the sound of the ocean breeze. And if you've ever heard me speak, you know that I always return with a handful of stories, anecdotes and lessons (like The Claudia AKA The Goddess) drawn from my interactions with the couples I meet at the resorts. Not surprisingly, I receive more questions about Desire Resorts than almost any other topic (e.g. What happens there? Is everyone naked? Do you get naked? Do you see people having sex in public?), so I've recruited a "newbie" guest to answer some questions about her first visit. Julie, a Canadian Public Relations specialist, was thrilled to share her insights and experience. Jess: What prompted you to visit Desire Resorts in the first place? Julie: I have always been a very open-minded, sexual being. It took years as an adult to discover who I am, and to come to terms with the fact...

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Women Like Casual Sex - Under the Right Circumstances

Uncategorized May 08, 2015

By Arena Thomson

In 1989, Clark and Hatfield published their seminal study concerning gender differences in receptivity to sexual advances. The study was conducted on a university campus, and consisted of students approaching people on campus with invitations like “Would you go out tonight?” and “Would you go to bed with me?”. The study’s results found that women were more likely to reject the advances of men and that, in fact, zero women agreed to have sex with the strangers who approached them. While both men and women consented to going on dates with the same frequency, three quarters of the men took up the offer of casual sex, bolstering the hackneyed idea that men possess higher sex drives than women.

There has been much speculation and controversy about the results of the study, with emphasis on how the outcomes should be interpreted. Some argue that the study's results should be viewed through an evolutionary lens, claiming that women are more...

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New Sex-Ed Curriculum

Uncategorized May 05, 2015

The updated topic of Human Development and Sexual Health (part of the Healthy Living strand of Ontario's Health and Physical Education curriculum) has generated a heated debate about sex education and what students should learn in classrooms across the province. Parents have pulled their children out of classes in protest and many people are concerned about whether topics are age-appropriate for classroom-based learning.

I have commented on the new curriculum and attempted to dispel much of the misinformation regarding its content on GlobalTVCHCH and YouTube. I encourage you to read through the curriculum and compare it to the old version from the 90s by clicking here for the full document and/or reading through the comparison chart (copy and pasted from the Ministry documents) below.

Comparison chart

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VIDEO: Tiger & Lindsey Break Up. How Can Busy Couples Make It Work?

In light of Woods and Vonn's breakup, Jess shares specific tips for maintaining a happy relationships despite our hectic lifestyles. Check out the video or read through the quick summary below.

Tips for busy couples:

1. Say "no" to social and professional commitments when you can. Ask yourself if commitments and their expected outcomes will matter to you when you're 88 years old. If not, say "no" and divert the time toward the person (or people) who will matter at the age of 88.

2. Block off time to be alone and be sure to write it down in your agendas. Some of the busiest couples in the world schedule one weekend alone per month 6 months in advance without exception. You can do it too. If they run into conflicts (e.g. weddings), they pull out their agendas and reschedule to ensure that 12 weekends per year are reserved for one another.

3. Travel together for business once in awhile. Add one day to your business trip for pleasure.

4. Learn to "speak" one another's Love Languages so...

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Desire Resorts Partners with Dr. Jess!

World renowned relationship expert and best-selling author, Jessica O’Reilly, has signed on as Desire Resorts’ official sexologist. You may know Dr. Jess from PlayboyTV’s Swing, ABC Spark’s Love Trap or from the pages of Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health and Men’s Fitness, but she is also a huge fan of Desire Resorts. “This is one of the most exciting collaborations for the Dr. Jess brand and also one of the most obvious. Desire Resorts provide the perfect environment for couples to reconnect, both practically and intimately, so I’ve been sending couples to their facilities for years. I know from personal experience that even a few days at one of their resorts can completely transform a relationship.”

Dr. Jess first arrived at Desire Riviera Maya as a guest in 2006 and in 2008, she hosted her first couples’ workshop onsite. She now facilitates retreats, workshops and seminars at both locations several times per year. Her...

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The Stork: Contraception Enhancement

A few weeks ago, I got to know an at-home conception aid called The Stork. We worked together to develop some tips for reducing stress and boosting intimacy for couples who are trying to conceive. I've posted them below. If you want to learn more about The Stork, check out the video and my layperson description below.

The Stork - Tip Sheet - FINAL, APPROVED

 

 

This device, which can be used at home during intercourse, involves two pieces -- one that resembles a condom and another that works like a tampon with a long handle. For male-female couples, the man wears the condom (they call it a conceptacle, as is contains a cervical cap-like device in the tip) during intercourse and then removes the cervical cap after ejaculating. The woman places the cervical cap on the tip of the applicator and  slides it into her vaginal canal to sit against her cervix. After 4-6 hours, she pulls it out using the tampon-like string.

Please note that as an educator, Jess is not a medical practitioner and does...

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Tips To Reignite The Passion

Uncategorized Apr 06, 2015

A few weeks ago, I got to know an at-home conception aid called The Stork. We worked together to develop some tips for reducing stress and boosting intimacy for couples who are trying to conceive. I've posted them below. If you want to learn more about The Stork, check out the video and my layperson description below.

The Stork - Tip Sheet - FINAL, APPROVED

 

This device, which can be used at home during intercourse, involves two pieces -- one that resembles a condom and another that works like a tampon with a long handle. For male-female couples, the man wears the condom (they call it a conceptacle, as is contains a cervical cap-like device in the tip) during intercourse and then removes the cervical cap after ejaculating. The woman places the cervical cap on the tip of the applicator and  slides it into her vaginal canal to sit against her cervix. After 4-6 hours, she pulls it out using the tampon-like string.

Please note that as an educator, Jess is not a medical practitioner and does NOT...

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An alternative to Valentine's Day in Post City Magazine

Uncategorized Feb 10, 2015

Dr. Jess writes monthly for Post City Magazine. This month, as a sexologist, it only seemed appropriate to discuss Valentine's Day.

Jess takes a personal twist in her article and discusses why she doesn't celebrate the holiday.

An excerpt from Jess's article in Post City magazine

Read the full article here

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TEDxVancouver

Uncategorized Feb 04, 2015

Jess took the stage at TedX Vancouver in front of a live, enthusiastic and very large audience. In her first TedX speech, Jess highlights the grey-area between monogamy and open relationships that might just be the antedate to divorce. She suggests that the key to happily ever after for many couples may be found in the concept of Monogam-ish.

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Marriage as a lifesaver in Post City Magazine

Uncategorized Jan 07, 2015

You're welcoming 2015 with open arms and promises of a healthy lifestyle, so why shouldn't you include your love life? Dr. Jess' most recent article in Post City Magazines underlines the importance and benefits of cultivating a happy marriage. Happy marriages can reduce stress, lift your spirits, boost immunity and can help to extend your lifespan. Advertising the benefits of a happy marriage without paving a path to success would be cruel, so Jess has included some ideas to help the happy factor in your marriage. And even if you're already in a blissful marriage, you can never have too much happy!Excerpt from marriage as a lifesaver

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