Tech Toys to Get You in the Mood

Uncategorized Nov 24, 2015

I met Elliott Chun, Best Buy Canada's Communication Manager, at Global Television's The Morning Show earlier this year and I've been hooked on his technology-based advice ever since. We tend to hear a great deal of bad news about how technology has the potential to destroy relationships, but I think we can all benefit from another perspective. Check out Elliott's take on the ways in which technology has the potential to bring us closer together.

1. Can you tell us a little bit about yourself and your experience in the tech world?

I was born and raised in Toronto and found my passion for electronics at a very young age. My parents were very school-first focused when I was growing up and against me owning video games like all the other kids I grew up with. So, I found a passion for sports, fashion and curiosity for technology at a young age. These are still relevant as an adult today where I still love all three, and really thrust myself into...

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The National Enquirer's Story On Charlie Sheen's HIV Status Endangers Public Health

Uncategorized Nov 17, 2015

Earlier today, The National Enquirer reported that they'll be releasing the story of Charlie Sheen's "explosive secret" that he has been "hiding from the world". They claim that "decades of debauchery have finally caught up" to him and connect his HIV-positive status with years of womanizing.

Regardless of whether their story is true, it is not only a violation of his privacy, but a public health threat in and of itself. For starters, his "explosive secret" and so-called cover up are not part of a scandal, but a matter of personal medical privacy. And decades of "debauchery" and "womanizing" do not inevitably result in HIV transmission.

Transmission can occur in a single sexual act as well as through other activities than involve the exchange of vaginal fluids, rectal fluids, seminal fluids, blood or breast milk. It’s stories like these that further stigmatize HIV and other STIs and put the public at risk under the farcical guise of journalism and public interest. By outing...

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Let’s Talk About Sex – With Our Partner(s)

By: Lyba Spring

Do we have to talk about sex?

It is generally accepted that we have to talk about sexuality in some way to our children so that they can develop into sexually healthy individuals. But what about our partners?  Whether it’s a one-time thing or a long-term committed relationship, there are three prerequisites to any sexual activity: consent, safety and pleasure.

There is no way around it: communication is key. For some people, this feels entirely natural; for others, they’d rather visit the dentist. Let’s say you have a new partner. You are very turned on to each other. You’ve managed to discuss mutual protection and have negotiated safer sex and/or contraception if pregnancy is an issue. You’ve agreed that you’re going to have sex – whatever that term means to the both of you. That’s two down off the checklist. Now, are you going to present a menu of what pleases you before the clothes come off; or are you going to...

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Let’s Talk About Sex – With Our Partner(s)

Uncategorized Nov 11, 2015

By: Lyba Spring

Do we have to talk about sex?

It is generally accepted that we have to talk about sexuality in some way to our children so that they can develop into sexually healthy individuals.  But what about our partners?

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Whether it’s a one-time thing or a long-term committed relationship, there are three prerequisites to any sexual activity: consent, safety and pleasure.  There is no way around it: communication is key.  For some people, this feels entirely natural; for others, they’d rather visit the dentist.

Let’s say you have a new partner.  You are very turned on to each other.  You’ve managed to discuss mutual protection and have negotiated safer sex and/or contraception if pregnancy is an issue.  You’ve agreed that you’re going to have sex – whatever that term means to the both of you.  That’s two down off the checklist.  Now, are you going to present a menu of what pleases you...

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Are All Women Lesbian or Bisexual?

Uncategorized Nov 10, 2015

Sometimes researchers break the mould and get it right — other times their claims simply don't add up. Jess examines a study which concludes that women are never heterosexual based on their pupil dilation response to sexual stimuli.

Check out the video and read through her additional notes below.

Jess has some concerns about this study’s findings:

  • Pupil response doesn’t necessarily indicate sexual arousal or attraction. It’s possible that sexualized videos of women draw more attention and alertness - not necessarily arousal in all cases. Our pupils do dilate when sexually aroused, but their dilation is really by-product of the nervous system processing information. They dilate in response to light, in response to challenging math questions, in response to images of war. Their dilation is considered part of a fight or flight response.
  • We create more space for female sexuality to be fluid, so it’s possible that...
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A Peek Inside A Sex Club

Uncategorized Nov 09, 2015
I recently penned a piece on exploring sex in Toronto for Post City Magazines and have received a number of inquiries about so-called sex clubs since its publication. I decided to sit down with the owners and staff of The X Club to get some straight answers about what really happens at their local venue.

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1. Do I have to be a member to enter the club?

We are a members-only club. We are very private, professional and confidential. We do have a Meet and Greet every third Friday of each month. Entrance is complimentary and no membership is required. This is for couples and single females who want to learn about the lifestyle and also see what The X Club has to offer. This event is from 8-9:30 p.m.

2. What are your most famous themed parties?

Every Saturday is a different theme at The X Club. The most famous themes I would have to say are our super parties which include, Glitter and Glow, White Night, Lingerie Valentines Ball, NYE,...

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Falling in Love Costs You Friends

Uncategorized Nov 06, 2015

How does falling in love affect your relationship with your friends? Research suggests that your friend circle may shrink as your love blossoms!

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Why do we lose friends when we fall in love? Is it healthy? What can we do about it?

"It can be common to lose friends when you fall in love for a few reasons. Often people throw themselves into the relationship and spend all their time with that person.  Friends may feel neglected and life suddenly becomes imbalanced. While this feels blissful at the time for those lovers, it is wise to try to resume some balance and to keep in touch with your loved ones, supports and regular commitments.  I tell my clients that the right person will blend with their existing life so they should try and keep many of their regular pursuits going early on.

 
Also, at times friends may feel jealous when you fall in love if they are single. They may feel left behind, lonely or envious.  It can be helpful to be sensitive to...
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Should We Be Having More or Less Sex?

Uncategorized Nov 03, 2015

This morning on Global TV’s The Morning Show, they ponder the question: should we be having more or less sex? Terry Crews and his wife, Rebecca King Crews attribute a boost in relationship satisfaction to a 90-day ban on sex while Natasha Bell of The Telegraph insists that having sex with her partner within the first hour of arriving home is the marriage-saver. Check out Dr. Jess’ thoughts below.

I love both Natasha’s and Terry’s approach to keeping the spark alive. Sensory and sexual deprivation helps to cultivate desire, while setting a sex deadline encourages you to start sex even in the absence of desire. So which approach should you choose? I suggest you blend the two according to your needs and personality types.
 
If you’re more of an explorer, a sex fast may be just what the doctor ordered as it offers a few unique benefits:
  • Absence builds desire
  • When your usual stimuli are absent, the brain cultivates new stimuli (i.e. you’ll...
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Adults-Only, Clothing-Optional Resort FAQ Part 2

Uncategorized Oct 30, 2015

Continued from Part 1 here...

FAQ: What should men do if they get an erection? "I cover up with a T shirt when tanning and yes it has happened to me. Its not acceptable to touch yourself so "down boy". However it's a consequence of being surrounded by beautiful people so it might give rise to an opportunity for you & your partner to go fool around." - Brian & Kath, Vancouver "Depends on how you got the erection, if it is for the right reasons, use it!! Otherwise, just excuse yourself discreetly. I don’t really think an erection will offend anyone!" - Jesse & Jenny, Mercersburg "Nothing to worry about! It happens to the best of us, and it is nothing to be embarrassed about. We recommend that you just roll over on your stomach for a while, or cover up with a towel until the “situation” subsides." - Desire Resorts

FAQ: Will we be encouraged to swing? "No, not at all. People are not pushy at all. Especially if they understand the lifestyle." - Brent &...

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Adults-Only, Clothing-Optional Resort FAQ Part 1

Uncategorized Oct 30, 2015

As a sexologist, I have one of the best jobs in the world. I am blessed to travel to far away lands, meet with fascinating people and share my adventures with a community of open minded friends. One of the best parts of my job involves working at clothing-optional, adult-only resorts like Desire Riviera Maya and Desire Pearl in Mexico.

Though I have a blast hosting retreats at these resorts, I know that many of my followers are perplexed by the idea of a clothing-optional, erotic-themed vacation. I receive hundreds of questions every month about what really goes down on the beach, at the pool, in the jacuzzi and even in the restaurants. It's clear that people are simultaneously nervous, enticed and sometimes misinformed about the experience, so I've gathered the most frequently asked questions below and asked real-life resort guests to help out with the answers. Enjoy and please feel free to be in touch if you have any other questions!

FAQ: Do I have to be naked? "No, there are a...

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