5 Toys To Revolutionize Your Sex Life! Part 1

Uncategorized Jun 07, 2017

When I first started working in the field of human sexuality, most of the toys on offer came in the form of exaggerated phalluses and animal-inspired vibes made of jelly. Fast forward to today and I’m thrilled to report that the adult toy industry has come along way. The variety and quality of products has vastly improved and many companies are investing heavily in research and development to ensure that their toys reflect the needs of their customers.

As a sexologist, I’m often asked to review toy prototypes and provide feedback (it’s a tough job, but somebody has got to to it!) and the companies I’ve worked with have been highly responsive to constructive criticism. From tech-enabled couples’ toys to products that focus as much on health as pleasure, it’s an exciting time in the adult industry.

There are thousands of toys, props and accoutrements on the market, but these are five that have revolutionized my sex life and those of my very happy...

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Is Your Friend Marrying the Wrong Person?

Uncategorized Jun 06, 2017
What should you do if you think your friend is about to marry the wrong person? Should you speak up or forever hold your peace? I weigh in on this sensitive subject with Jeff McArthur on Global TV's The Morning Show. Check out my advice and the video below!

1. Should you tell a friend they’re marrying the wrong person?
In most cases, you should keep your mouth shut, but it depends on a few factors:

  • Are they wrong for your friend or wrong for you? Do you dislike the way their partner has impacted your friendship with this friend or are you genuinely concerned for your friend’s happiness?
  • Are you really a good judge of whether or not someone is right or wrong for somebody else. I’m a so-called relationship expert (I read dozens of new studies each week and engage with thousands of couples each year) and I’m not even comfortable making that kind of call in most cases.

2. Are there any cases when you should speak up? 

  • If there is abuse. If...
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Love and Affection in Elle Brazil's Latest Cover

Uncategorized Jun 05, 2017

By Alison Minor

Earlier this week, Elle Brazil celebrated their 29th anniversary and the LBGTQ community in a beautifully commendatory fashion. They featured a same-sex couple on their highly anticipated, glossy annual issue of the magazine. The cover is irrefutably beautiful and was met with an inspiringly positive response all around.

For the current sexual and political landscape of Brazil, this cover matters a lot. Members of the LBGTQ community in Brazil have been subject to fatal hate crimes, most of which did not involve any form of robbery. In the past four years, Brazil has lost nearly 1,600 beautiful gay, lesbian, and transgender souls to mindless and hate-fueled violence. This number is most likely higher, due to police’s preference to omit details of victims’ sexual orientation because of the strong taboo that surrounds the subject.

The issue’s theme was affection, and we applaud Elle Brazil, and all those who bravely stand for inclusivity and...

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Why did Melania Slap Trump’s Hand Away?

Uncategorized May 30, 2017

Everyday, President Donald Trump and First Lady Melania Trump are objectified under the media's microscope. So when an act of PDA is rejected, we immediately jump to conclusions about their relationship. I discuss this further with Jeff McArthur on Global TV's The Morning Show. Read my advice and watch the video below!

1. Is it a big deal that she slapped his hand away?

It’s only a big deal because they were in public. And it was more of a rebuff than a slap of the hand. Every single one of us has felt this way toward our partner at some point in time, so let’s not single out Melania. I’m married to the nicest, most charming, most loving man I could imagine and I still don’t want to hold his hand at every moment in time. Whether or not you’re a fan of Trump or Melania, you have to admit that we’re often looking for opportunities to criticize their relationship oftentimes because we're insecure about our own.

I should note, however, that the most...

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Bromance Benefits

Uncategorized May 30, 2017

I joined Jeff McArthur this morning on Global TV's The Morning Show to discuss the benefits of bromances. Read my thoughts below and don't forget to watch the video!

What is a bromance?

According to a recent study that looked at undergraduate students, a bromance is a close non-sexual friendship marked by intimacy, love and openness. It’s a relationship that is free from judgment and ultimately one that defies cultural prescriptions of masculinity that preclude men from being vulnerable and sharing intimate details of their life.

Are they becoming more common?

Yes! And it’s a good thing. We see that men who acknowledge having had a bromance acknowledge the many benefits:

  • The opportunity to divulge vulnerabilities without social ridicule.
  • Increased social support (which is positively correlated with more positive physical and mental health outcomes & longevity).
  • Feelings of brotherhood and family-like ties.
  • Opportunities to discuss topics that were previously...
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Confessions of a Codependent

Uncategorized May 29, 2017

By Alison Minor

We all have a friend who always seems to be in a relationship and who never seems to be single for more than (what feels like) five minutes. I can sincerely say that I have been that person for a majority of my mature life. As a result of this, I became codependent in the process. It came to a point where I was dating people who were not a good fit for me. It became an issue that I was far too afraid to solve.

However, now that I've finally broke the habit of clinging to my partner-of-the-moment, I will never go back.

Whether you find yourself constantly involved in a relationship, but yearning for a sense of independence or you’re generally unhappy in a relationship, but too comfortable to leave, these are my tips to break free of “codependence.”

1. Find things you love to do. As someone who always had a partner, I found that I would lose my personality in them. If they liked hockey, so did I. If they liked spending time outdoors, so did...

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How to Avoid Fights in the Car!

Uncategorized May 16, 2017

It’s road trip season! Pack up that car, rally the troops and get ready for the open road.

What fun!

That is, until, you get lost, take a wrong turn, take a few too many pee breaks and find yourselves hangry in a hot car with a backseat driver who can’t stop humming 80s pop songs. Jess discusses this roadtrippin' research on Global TV's The Morning Show. Check out her advice in the video below.

Research shows that it only takes 22 minutes for couples to start fighting once they’ve hopped in the car, but we’ve got some tips for harmonious road trips to ensure that you start your vacation on the right foot.

1. What are couples fighting about in the car?

71% of couples have fought in the car and the most common cause relates to getting lost. But no topic is off limits. Couples fight about a range of subjects including:

44% — directions/getting lost
37% — where to park
34% — driving too quickly
24% — driving too close to other cars

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5 Reasons To Join Me on Desire Resorts' Clothing-Optional Cruise!

Uncategorized May 11, 2017

Set sail with me this September! I'll be aboard the 'Desire Venice Cruise' with some of my wildest and sexiest friends from around the world. Departing from Venice, Italy, this luxurious ship will explore the Adriatic Sea stopping in several ports from Croatia to Slovenia. You don't want to miss it! The cruise will deliver a truly unique experience, including adult playrooms, clothing-optional areas, erotic entertainment, breathtaking destinations and much more.

Here are my top 5 reasons to book this cruise today:

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Roxi D'Lite, the bad girl of burlesque, will be there. Roxi is THE sexiest woman I have ever met and she's sweet as pie too:) We've had a blast hanging out in Las Vegas, Halifax, Montreal and Toronto and it's about time we hit up Europe together. Roxi has received a boatload of awards including Miss Exotic World, World Champion of Exotic Dance and The Burlesque Hall of Fame's Queen of Burlesque. You'll have the opportunity to see her in...

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Do Age Gaps in Relationships Matter?

Uncategorized May 09, 2017

France just elected a president whose partner is 24 years his senior. Donald Trump is 23 years older than Melania. We’re seeing more high-profile May-December relationships, so let’s talk about them. Much of the cultural disdain toward large age gaps between partners is fuelled by fear — the fear that relationships may be transactionally driven by money, sex, power, and lust. But age is but one factor that determines marital satisfaction and longevity — and money, power, sex, and lust are relevant in all relationship regardless of age.

Jess delves into the data on inter-generational relationships and shares her advice with Global TV’s The Morning Show.

How common are these relationships?

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The Psychology of Erectile Dysfunction Part 2

Uncategorized May 03, 2017

Continued from Part 1 here...


If you remember what I said about the male body’s complex balancing act, it’s no wonder that drugs can influence our sexual behaviour. Let’s start with prescription drugs, which include; medications to control high blood, antihistamines, pain medication, muscle relaxants, antiarrhythmic drugs, medications used to manage Parkinson’s and chemotherapeutic drugs.  Then we have the drugs that everyone knows and loves, i.e. psychotropics, which are chemical substances that change brain function and result in alterations in perception, mood, or consciousness. These include stimulants like amphetamine, cocaine, caffeine and nicotine, depressants like alcohol, barbiturates, benzodiazepines and heroin, hallucinogens such as marijuana and LSD, antidepressants, and antipsychotics. Each of these drugs acts on different neurochemical pathways in the brain that are important for sexual desire, performance and orgasm. Some these...

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