Recipe For A Sexy Weekend Escape

Uncategorized Aug 30, 2017

Vacation sex is just about as hot as it gets. Rivaled only by conjugal visit sex, vacation sex offers the thrill of an escape and the excitement of new surroundings without the cold hard floor of a prison cell or the criminal record. While not everyone has the time or budget to take off to an oceanfront retreat, a weekend escape can work wonders for your love life.

Research suggests that an escape with your lover not only impacts your short-term sex life, but it can help to reignite the flame of passion. By slipping away from your regular routine and reducing the practical restrictions that inhibit your sex life (e.g. screaming kids, work deadlines, household chores), your inhibitions naturally subside leading to exciting and novel experiences and a boost in passion. Moreover, you’re more likely to try something new while on vacation or a mini-escape (e.g. starting a new book, exploring new territory or tasting new foods) and according to self-expansion...

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The Science of Breakups: How To "Uncouple" With Compassion

Uncategorized Aug 22, 2017

Is there a right or wrong way to break up with your partner? Today on The Morning Show, Jess & Jeff discuss the science of compassionate break-ups and strategies for effective uncoupling. Check out the summary notes and video below.

1. There is science to breaking up. What do we know?

Research suggests that there are five stages:

  • Pre-contemplation: feelings of unease without doubt.
  • Contemplation: doubts about the relationship.
  • Preparation: you’ve made the decision, but haven’t put it into action — this can last months.
  • Action: this could be withdrawal or another less straightforward approach.
  • Maintenance: final exchanges that might include returning belongings, moving out, etc.

If you don’t get back together in the fifth stage, chances are you won’t be together in the long run.

2. But what about breaking up effectively? How do you do it and does it matter how long you’ve been dating? The length of your relationship will...

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Can Shy Couples Be Swingers Too?

Uncategorized Aug 18, 2017

Of course you can!

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The Lifestyle is rooted in social interactions — both online and in-person — so it’s not uncommon for all couples (regardless of
whether or not you identify as shy) to feel intimidated by the prospect of meeting, flirting with and pursuing new friendships and connections.

Being shy, however, does not mean that you cannot fully indulge in the swinging experience; with a little guidance and practice, you’ll find your groove and be well on your way to making new connections, cultivating lasting friendships and igniting the sexual spark with other couples in the Lifestyle.

I turned to my friends from PlayboyTV’s Swing (click here for the NSFW link which confirms they are the antitheses of shy!) for their advice for shy folks in the Lifestyle. Here’s what they had to say:

Tammy McCray of pdxsanctuary.com offers the following insight:

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“Having our own Lifestyle club has really opened our eyes to how difficult it...

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Can Passing Gas Benefit Your Relationship?

Uncategorized Aug 15, 2017

This morning on Global TV's The Morning Show, Jess discussed the act of passing gas in relationships with Carolyn Mackenzie. Are there any benefits? And how long do most people wait to fart for the first time? Check out the video and Jess' notes below...

1. This survey included 125 people in their 20s and 30s and the researchers conclude that farting may be good for your relationship. How do young people really feel about farting in front of a significant other?

  •  29% say it’s acceptable to start farting in front of your partner after dating for 2-6 months. (This may be when the sleepovers start — at which time passing gas seems inevitable. Who doesn’t play the butt-tuba in their sleep?)
  • 25% say it’s acceptable to start farting in front of your partner after dating for 6-12 months.
  • 22% say they only wait a few weeks.
  • 7% they would never fart in front of a partner.
  • Women are more likely to report that they wait for their partner to do it first.

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Six Reasons to Take a Break From Sex

Uncategorized Aug 11, 2017

Too much of a good thing may be wonderful, but when it comes to sex, taking a hiatus can be good for you relationship and sex life!

Read through some of the benefits of temporarily abstaining from sex to decide if now might be a good time to take a vacation from sex:

Benefit #1: A boost in libido

Science suggests that a sex fast can enhance sexual desire. When the brain and body lack specific stimuli, we tend to seek new sources of stimulation. The sexually-specific sensory deprivation experienced during a sex hiatus can help to fuel spontaneous sexual desire, which doesn’t tend to exist in abundance for many of us in long term relationships; we tend to experience desire after we’re aroused as opposed to spontaneously. Though you’re perfectly normal if you don’t experience spontaneous sexual desire, you can cultivate this experience via a nonpermanent break from sex.

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Benefit #2: An Increase in Affection

As you take a break...

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Let’s End STI Stigma!

Uncategorized Aug 11, 2017

I recently sat down with Elisa Benson to discuss all things STIs on Cosmopolitan.com's Happy Hour Podcast.  We discuss common STO misconceptions and how you can discuss the topic with your partner. Check out the notes below and click on the image to listen to the full podcast!

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How to talk to your partner about getting tested:

  • Start with yourself. Tell them about your testing routine.
  • I get tested every year on my birthday.
  • I was tested 2 months ago. How about you?

How to tell your partner about an STI:

  • Tell them before you have sex: I want to have sex with you. I have something to tell you first…
  • Don’t apologize. And don’t feel you need to explain to them how you contracted an STI.
  • If you’re inclined, feel free to share a few resources with them, as they may have questions you can’t (or don’t want to) answer on your own.
  • It can help to share the info with friends and other trusted support sources to practice opening up and...
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Seven Simple Steps To Revolutionize Your Sex Life Today

Uncategorized Jul 26, 2017

Enhancing your sex life and reigniting the spark does not require a drastic overhaul of your lifestyle. Simple changes can produce immediate rewards, so pick one from this list of strategies and get started today. Once you’ve changed one habit or implemented one strategy for a week, add another until you’ve completed each item on the list.

Keep us posted on your progress. We love to hear from you!

1. Do NOT do kegels. Instead, see a Pelvic Floor Physiotherapist who can accurately assess the types of exercises that will benefit you specifically. Kegels are not a one-size-fits-all prescription and, in fact, are contraindicated in some cases. I’ve learned so much from my therapist; she assigned a series of exercises including squats, deep breathing and cat stretches and it has paid off both in and out of the bedroom.

To find a qualified therapist in your area, click here.

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2. Ban electronic devices for the last two hours of the day. The light emitted by...

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How to Deal with Frenemies!

Uncategorized Jul 25, 2017

According to a U.K. study, 45% of people keep friends they don't even like. But why do we do this? Do we aim to keep our friends close and our enemies closer? Jess dissected the latest research on "ambivalent friends" with Carolyn Mackenzie this morning on Global TV's The Morning Show. Check out her notes and video below.

What did the study find?

  • According to 2000 Brits, they have an average of 16 friends and acquaintances — three of whom they don’t like/struggle to get along with.

What are our top complaints about these so-called friends?

  • We don’t have anything in common.
  • They’re too bossy/controlling.
  • Our opinions differ significantly.
  • How they behave when they drink.
  • They’re too high maintenance.

Other complaints that made the top 20:

  • The language they use.
  • The way they treat their partner.
  • They flirt with my partner.
  • They don’t get along with my partner.

Why are we hanging out with people we don’t like?

  • Oftentimes, it’s...
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To Orgasm or Not to Orgasm: A Battle of the Sexes

Uncategorized Jul 24, 2017

Orgasm: the subjective experience of intense pleasure and release at sexual climax, felt as a sequence of spasms in the genital area that can radiate to other parts of the body. But you don’t really need my Introduction to Human Sexuality textbook definition to know what I’m talking about. I mean we’ve all experienced this euphoric state…right? Not quite actually, in fact, it’s the disparity in orgasm frequency amongst women and men that led to the birth of the famous “orgasm gap”. Countless studies have shown that men report experiencing orgasm during sexual activity far more frequently than women.

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Early reports have even demonstrated that only 29% of women always experience an orgasm during sex, while 44% of heterosexual men say that their opposite sex partners always experience orgasm. This interesting difference in opinions has a lot to do with the goal-oriented nature men often enter into a sexual experience...

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Which Jobs Have the Highest Divorce Rates?

Uncategorized Jul 18, 2017

This morning on Global TV's The Morning Show, Jess discussed the connection between divorce and job stress with Jeff McArthur. Research suggests that those working in certain occupations are more likely to get divorced. Read on and watch the videos below to learn more!

Research suggests that certain occupations are associated with higher divorce rates by the age of 30:

1. Military supervisors

2. Logisticians

3. Auto mechanic

Previous research identifies divorce rates by occupation (regardless of age):

1. Dancers/choreographers (43% divorce rate)

2. Bartenders (38% divorce rate)

3. Massage Therapists (38% divorce rate)

Lowest divorce rates occur in the following professions:

1. Agricultural engineers (2% divorce rate)

2. Optometrists (4% divorce rate)

3. Transit police (5% divorce rate)

Why might this be?

  • Work stress, hours and travel requirements may play a role, but you also have to consider the causal direction of these relationships; do the jobs contribute to divorce risk...
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