How to Talk About Sex in 3 Steps

Uncategorized Mar 12, 2018

Talking about sex isn’t easy, but it is well worth it to improve intimacy, develop a connection and heighten pleasure. Here are 3 steps to talking about sex with success:

Step 1: Be positive and begin with the easier conversations


Start by talking about what is already working and, offer compliments on those successes. This part of the ongoing sex talk may suffice for the very first discussion. You don’t have to move from “You’re a great kisser…” to “…but you don’t go down on me enough” in one breath. Sometimes it’s best to practice talking about sex by emphasizing the positive elements first. As you both become more comfortable with the topic (which takes time), then you can move into specific critiques. Here are a few lines to get you started:

“I love when you…”

“One thing that I really like is…”

“You’re the best at…”

“Do you remember...

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Jess Tackles Your Relationship Qs!

Uncategorized Mar 06, 2018

This morning on Global TV's The Morning Show, Jeff and Jess sit down to address some more viewer relationship questions. Read her advice and watch the video below, as you might be able to relate! Have a sex and/or relationship Q of your own? Drop us a line here and we may address it on the next podcast episode. I’ve been with a new guy for almost 6 months but I’m struggling with his past because he had so many partners. I’ve only had 4 and his are way up in the double digits. Help! How can I not let my feelings ruin the relationship? It’s normal to feel a little insecure or threatened by your partner’s past especially because your imagination is likely wilder than his reality. Some get all riled up over the possibility that former lovers were more adventurous or skilled than they are and others worry that his wild past is a sign that they’ll never be enough to satiate his needs. Figure out what threatens you about his past and identify how you...

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Can A Sleep-Divorce Save Your Marriage?

Uncategorized Feb 28, 2018

Sleep experts suggest that sleeping in separate beds might be good for your relationship. But is it realistic for most couples? Jess and Carolyn weigh in on this so-called trend on Global TV’s The Morning Show. 1. What did this Canadian study find?

  • According to a study out of Ryerson University’s Sleep and Depression Laboratory, 30-40 percent of couples sleep in separate beds; but this percentage is probably overstated owing to the fact that their sample included people attending the sleep clinic with sleep-related issues.
  • Sleep arrangements are culturally and environmentally influenced. One older large-scale study found that people are more likely to sleep together in cooler climates and other research suggests that half of mothers across the globe share a bed with their children while the father sleeps in a separate bed.

2. Why might it be better to sleep in separate rooms?

  • Research shows that couples believe that they sleep better when they’re together,...
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Dr. Jess' Visit to Desire Resorts for ISM 2018!

Uncategorized Feb 27, 2018

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I kicked off 2018 in style with a visit to both Desire Riviera Maya Pearl & Desire Riviera Maya — my favourite clothing-optional resorts! I was welcomed by smiling faces, perfect weather and joined by a few hundred new friends from the US, Switzerland, Italy, Canada, Brazil, Mexico and beyond. Check out my uncut Instagram Stories of my trip below and be sure to follow along.


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11 Ways to Boost Self Confidence Today!

Uncategorized Feb 22, 2018

Confidence is sexy and powerful. In fact, research shows that confidence is as important as competence in achieving success and building relationships. In the workplace, confidence helps managers to garner support, cultivate trust and achieve results — even when they lack competence in management skills. And in the mating game, confidence is equally important with confident daters consistently ranked as the most attractive both physically and behaviourally.

But confidence isn’t static or inherent — it is fluid and can be cultivated through daily habits that help to shape the way you think and behave. You can build confidence in a variety of ways including these eleven simple tips that you can implement today:

1. Write down the compliments you receive. Most of us brush off compliments without a second thought and in doing so, we overlook valuable opportunities to boost confidence and expand our send of self. The next time someone pays you a...

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12 Libido-Boosting Foods for a Healthy Sex Life

Uncategorized Feb 15, 2018

If you’re looking to boost your libido, enhance performance and intensify your overall sexual experience, look no further than your grocery shopping cart. Research suggests that the foods you consume can affect sexual desire, functioning and experience so consider making a few adjustments to your diet in the name of better sex. We’ve curated this list of foods to support libido and sexual functioning, so considering adding these healthy and tasty options to your diet and let us know if you experience any noticeable changes:

Beet juice is popular among athletes and its nitrate content is associated with improved circulation and muscle oxygenation — both of which support sexual functioning. Some studies have found that drinking one to two cups per day improves physical performance and can reduce hypertension.

Coffee, consumed in moderation, may be just what the doctor ordered for an active, healthy sex life. A University of Texas study of 4000 men found that men who...

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Where Do Happy Couples Meet?

Uncategorized Feb 15, 2018

With Valentine’s Day still on our minds, we’re reminded that single folks are also looking for love and research shows that the places that they’re finding it are shifting with technology. Jess sat down to discuss several recent surveys that reveal the latest trends in on and offline dating.

Where are happy couples meeting?

According to a survey of 14,000 recently engaged/married readers of TheKnot (a wedding website), 17% met on a dating site or app, 2% met on social media, another 17% were introduced by friends, 15% met in college and 12% met at work. The number who met online continues to increase year-over-year and couples continue to use apps once they’ve settled into the relationship (e.g. to plan the wedding, manage finances, set dates, flirt, and even schedule sex).

Is meeting online a matter of age?

According to’s Singles In America Survey, Millenials are more likely to date online, but interestingly, this is not their preferred...

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How to Spice Things Up for Valentine’s Day (All Ages For Couples)

Uncategorized Feb 14, 2018

1. How important is Valentine’s Day?

  • I don’t think Valentine’s Day is particularly important in many relationships; in fact, I’m not a huge fan of V-Day, as I believe it often relegates romance, intimacy, and eroticism to one day per year. You’re better off investing in your relationship on a daily basis as opposed to relying on one grand gesture to reignite the spark. Having said that, if it’s important to you, that’s all that matter. You’re the expert in your own needs and relationship.

2. How do you get away from the predictable chocolate, flowers, and dinner?

  • Volunteer! It makes you more attractive and is associated with increased levels of happiness and health. Whether the relationship is casual or you’re planning for the long-term, you’ll be creating a good habit for yourself (and your partner) moving forward.
  • Take a single friend or older neighbour out to dinner. As you spread the love and positive vibes, your...
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How To Have The Hottest Sex Ever This Valentine's Day

Uncategorized Feb 12, 2018

Do it in the Morning

This Valentine’s Day, kickstart your morning with a passionate lovemaking session and let your intimacy soar alongside levels of your feel-good hormone, oxytocin.

I know. I hear over and over again that most women don’t like morning sex, but there are a number of good reasons to reconsider this timely sex act. Not only are men’s testosterone levels higher in the morning, but physical sensations are often heightened after a good night’s sleep making the body more responsive to touch. Research even suggests that couples who get frisky in the morning are happier and healthier thanks to the cardio workout, improved blood circulation and the palliative effect of orgasm. So this year, trade in the heart-shaped breakfast-in-bed pancakes for a morning quickie that will leave you both feeling refreshed, connected and blissfully in love.



This modern bride’s trick is designed to build...

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4 Steamy Winter Sex Tips

Uncategorized Feb 08, 2018

Whenever I tell people that I’m from Canada, they often conclude that my career path as a sexologist must be related to the cold Canadian winters. It seems that our neighbours to the south assume that we spend the frigid months frolicking beneath the covers in an attempt to stay warm. Unfortunately for many of us, nothing could be farther from the truth. In fact, many of us lose interest in sex during the colder months due to chemical changes in the body that diminish both energy levels and sex drive. Couple this with shorter days and plummeting vitamin D levels that impact our mood and you’ve got a chilly recipe for disaster.

Sex Tips to Fight The Winter Blues

This winter, let’s do our best combat the seasonal sex blues by kicking our sex lives into high gear with these winter sex tips:

Spike your warm drinks! Research suggests that booze (in moderation) is actually good for your sex life. Women who drink...

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