This week's Sexuality Superhero is: Reece Malone. Reece is a sexuality star, delivering a wealth of knowledge through his online courses and sexuality consulting. Whether its an individual or a couple, Reece is well-practised in issues dealing with intimacy, sexual satisfaction and so much more! Check out his feature below:
How did you find yourself working in sexuality?
In my youth I was curious about many aspects of culture and society, including sexuality. I didn’t receive any information about the “birds and the bees” from my parents and truly believed that babies came from storks. I also believed that dads can birth kittens and everyone had the capacity to birth a cute pet. At 8 years old, I began asking questions about different aspects of sexuality. A lot of questions. Unfortunately my questions were often met with negativity leaving me with a feeling that I asked something bad. Asking my parents about sex was off the table so I turned elsewhere to find...
Cuddling and other forms of physical touch are important in most relationships, as physical affection is one of the ways we express love, desire and commitment.
In North America, we tend to reserve most forms physical touch for those we love and many of us are touch-deprived. A study of 509 adults found that those who lack affection (and crave more physical affection) experience lower levels of happiness and higher levels of loneliness, depression, relationship satisfaction and stress.
Obviously cuddling is more important to some people — especially those who perceive physical affection as the ultimate form of loving expression. It is therefore essential to communicate your needs to your partner and be open to listening to theirs. Some of us express our love primarily with our words and others do so through physical touch.
To improve understanding of one another’s desires with regard to physical affection, you might want to consider asking and answering a few questions:...
It's that time of week again! This week, our Sexuality Superhero is: Jet Setting Jasmine. Jasmine is a licensed clinical therapist and does amazing work as a fetish trainer. She's joined forces with King Noire to deliver effective hands-on workshops that emphasize a sensual approach to sexual wellness and education. Check it out!
How did you find yourself working in sexuality?
I am a licensed therapist and have always had an interest in how people-maintained intimacy and the importance of intimacy in the wake of challenging life experiences. I dedicated a great deal of my work to working with client’s with trauma experiences and intimacy post injury/illness and intimacy and caregiving. The other bulk of my sex work has centered around my own sexual exploration. I have taken my personal experiences and shared them openly for others to learn and see a woman with my background enjoying sexual freedoms; with hopes that they will too.
What is the best part of the...
There is no one-size-fits-all approach to relationships and what works for your parents, friends or neighbours may not work for you. There is, however, a wealth of research on relationship satisfaction and outcomes that may offer some insight into what you can do to increase your odds of making love last and creating a relationship that is healthy fulfilling and passionate.
Consider the following ingredients to create a relationship that works for you:
Laughter and playfulness.
Research shows that couples who laugh together often are the happiest — even if they fight often, the presence of laughter may help to attenuate the potentially negative impacts of fights. Neuroscientists and psychologists theorize that laughter might be an evolutionary mechanism to soothe anxiety and warn others that a perceived threat is, in fact, harmless. So if you can inject humour and playfulness into your daily routine and find reasons to laugh and lighten up during times of distress,...
More Canadians are single this Valentine’s Day and while some are single by choice, others report having difficulty dating and finding a compatible partner. Jess joined Carolyn and Jeff on Global TV’s The Morning Show to discuss this topic and share insights on how we can adjust our attitudes to improve our chances of finding love.
Check out the video replay and Jess’ notes below.
1. Why do so many daters say that it’s difficult to connect in the Canadian dating market?
Canadians can be shy and in large urban centres, we struggle to connect with new folks — not just potential dates, but friends and social contacts in general. As we delay and opt out of marriage, we’re more likely to live alone (28% of Canadians live alone)
Research suggests that loneliness is a health threat across the country. Loneliness is associated with higher rates of depression, anxiety, irritability and even heart disease and stroke.
2. Are daters too picky?
I’ve just returned from my Canadian speaking tour with We-Vibe and I had the chance to connect with thousands of happy couples and open-minded singles who realize that investing in your relationship is the key to making is last.
In Edmonton, I received this question from a 34-year-old:
“Sometimes I don’t want to be touched. My girlfriend gets mad and says something is wrong with me. It’s not that I never want to be touched (we kiss, hug, have sex), there are just times when I’m not in the mood to be snuggled - especially right when I walk in after work. I need a few minutes to decompress. Is something wrong with me?”
I share a few thoughts below:
Just as some people crave touch constantly, others abhor it. Wherever you fall along the spectrum of desire of physical touch, you’re normal and have a right to ask for as little or as much touch as you’d like.
Some parents — especially mothers who tend to bear a disproportionate...
Some people find that social media serves as a positive distraction and source of support after a breakup. For example, it is now easier to reconnect with old friends and ask for affirming messages online. This morning, one of my clients was feeling down and asked friends to share uplifting messages; funny GIFs, thoughtful memes and adorable animal videos poured in to boost her mood and served as a reminder of all the people who are willing to offer support from a distance.
Others, of course, find that social media connections are more distracting and frustrating after a breakup. You might see photos of your ex having a great time or enjoying themselves with mutual friends. You might feel resentful that shared friends are seemingly more engaged with your ex’s posts than your own. And of course, your ex might post evidence that they’ve moved on more quickly than you have and this can further intensify the suffering that results from...
Valentine’s Day is just around the corner and while some people (like Jess) are trying their best to ignore it, others are planning ahead and trying to figure out how to make a mostly-commercial holiday count. Viewers from across Canada have been sharing their stories and questions with The Morning Show and Jess joined them to offer her insights on a few queries this morning.
Check out the summary and video below and be sure to submit your questions here.
My colleagues recently told me that someone we work with has a crush on me. A week ago he asked them what kind of chocolates I like so I’m assuming he plans on gifting me with some on Valentine’s Day. I really like this person, but not more than a friend. How should I handle this situation so I don’t hurt him and we can remain friends?
Be clear about your intentions from the onset. Let them know that you don’t like surprise gifts or convey your disinterest in Valentine’s Day....
It's time to feature another Sexuality Superhero! This week, our Sexuality Superhero is: Estrella Jaramillo. Estrella is a sexual health advocate who's goal is to help women become more educated about sex, communication and intimacy. She is also the co-founder of B-wom. Happy reading!
Tell us a little bit about yourself, and why you decided to work in this industry?
I’ve always felt passionate about gender equality issues, and for women’s health and sexual equanimity are at the core of truly achieving equality. Women’s desires, sexuality and ambition have been oppressed as a means to control them and maintain the status quo. My work in the industry is my contribution to change this. When women have access to education, tools and resources to take care of their bodies, specifically their intimate health, they are empowered to always feel their best at every stage of life - A woman who fully owns her body, fully owns her life.
What is the best part of the job?
Communication is essential to a lasting relationship, but simply opening your mouth and letting the words flow out doesn’t amount to effective communication. Communication involves both talking and active listening. And purposeful conversations about intense topics tend to be more fruitful than responsive ones.
If you want to make it in the long-run and have a fulfilling relationship, have conversations that make you feel uncomfortable. Consider the following topics:
Parenting is a source of fulfillment and conflict in relationships and it often starts before the kids arrive. You’ll want to discuss a wide range of questions and scenarios in advance so that you can discuss contentious topics without the pressure of a crying baby in the next room. Some questions to consider: How many kids do you want (if any)? When will you want to start trying? Or would you rather adopt? If you don’t get pregnant after a year, what methods would you consider? If you’re...