This morning, Jess sat down with Jeff and Carolyn on Global TV's The Morning Show to address viewer questions about relationships and ghosting. Check out what Jess has to say, see her expanded notes and video clip below.
I’m married and want to leave, because I’ve met someone else - my forever person - and we’ve already started making plans. When should I tell my husband? I think I should wait until everything is in place to tell my husband I’m leaving in order to avoid a blowup and months of fighting, but my friends say I should let him know earlier. Am I right or are they?
Do not ghost your husband. Unless you feel unsafe — for example, if you’re dealing with an abusive partner, you want to put your safety first — be transparent. Tell him now. If you’re making plans to leave — changing mail, financial account info or looking for a new place to live — your partner deserves to know.
You say you’re looking to avoid...
Gary Chapman’s bestseller, The 5 Love Languages, suggests that each of us has a primary love language — words of affirmation, receiving gifts, acts of service, quality time or physical touch — and to improve emotional communication and connection, we need to learn to speak our partner’s language.
With the holidays upon us, understanding and catering to your partner’s love language can make gift-giving easier and more meaningful, so I’ve put together a brief gift guide for each of the love languages.
If your partner values words of affirmation, be sure to write a personalized card and consider a DIY gift. Last year, Rosedale resident Bruce made his wife a book of memories with photos and loving commentary from over thirty friends and family members. It’s no wonder they’ve been happily married for 37 years! If you didn’t plan ahead (Bruce’s book took four weeks to complete), consider the 21st century digital...
This week's Sexuality Superhero is Machel Hunt. Machel is a relationship counsellor with sixteen years of experience under his belt. He has a discipline in psycho-dynamic and person-centered counselling, and integrates important therapy practices in his sessions so couples can become more comfortable with sexual health and their sexual pleasures. Read his feature below and learn more!
How did you find yourself working in sexuality?
I grew up in a very liberal household, so I have always had an open mind about sex and sexuality. When I started university, I wanted to study psychology and graduated undergrad with a BSC in psychology. During undergrad, I became even more intrigued by the psychology of sex and then decided to pursue a masters in counselling therapy. At this point I knew I wanted to become a sex therapist. My first job was at a couples therapy center. I love helping individuals and couples to understand their underlying issues and coach them to a healthy...
If you slept in this morning, you likely missed Jess’ appearance on The Morning Show, so check out the notes below.
A Global TV viewer asks: My father-in-law interferes in our relationship to the point that I think it’s driving a wedge between me and my wife. He undermines us with the kids, is manipulative with money and criticizes our relationship. How do I get him to back off and how do I talk to my wife about this?
Start by asking your wife how she feels about his behaviour. Does she share your concerns? Don’t start with complaints or criticisms; instead open up a discussion so you can better understand her perspective on the same interactions. Your perspective may be coloured by your own experiences, your relationship with your parents and other personal sensitivities. And chances are that she is likely dealing with some similar concerns, because you share the same values and goals for your kids and relationship.
Once you’ve considered your...
I was recently interviewed on the topic of how to have better sex while trying to conceive and was asked to share tips to reduce raw stress associated with baby-making. I’ve shared the interview summary below and believe these stress-reducing strategies are relevant regardless of whether or not you’re trying to get pregnant:
Sex can be both a source of stress and a remedy to assuage tension in relationships. The associated stress often occurs when you worry about frequency, quality or issues of compatibility. If you’re not have sex as often as you’d like (or you’ve stopped having sex altogether), a lack of time, a perceived lack of privacy, breakdowns in communication, body image and shame issues and mismatched libidos are often to blame.
Couples who are trying to get pregnant face the added pressure of worrying about conception and oftentimes this detracts from pleasure, intimacy and experimentation. It is not uncommon for seduction to be unnecessarily...
Say hello to this week's Sexuality Superhero, Stacy Routhier. Stacy's profile is a little different than the Sexuality Superheroes we usually feature. Stacy's blog talks about her experience with cancer, and how it's affected her marriage, sex life and other important pathways in life (both good and bad). Read Stacy's story below.
How has your experience with cancer affected your marriage? (Either good or bad, or anything at all.)
Being diagnosed with DCIS commonly known as stage 0 breast cancer at age 36 was something that we weren’t ever expecting to deal with. We knew that this was going to be a long journey that required sacrifice, patience and positivity. Most married couples know that these are the traits of a healthy marriage, but I think sometimes we forgo these traits when life takes over and forces us to shy away from these desired traits. We knew that we really had to work at keeping these three traits top-of-mind now for the well-being of us both. Grant and I...
We are celebrating Movember we want to help you to be the healthiest version of yourself possible - prostate and all! You already know that diet, exercise and sleep impact your overall health, vitality and sex drive, so I sat down with New York Times Bestselling author, Dr. Natasha Turner ND, founder of Clear Medicine Wellness Boutique, to address specific tips for prostate health.
Dr. Turner, who founded the 5-Week Plan To Reset Your Health and Hormones emphasizes that research related to the hormonal regulation of the prostate has primarily focused on androgen action until more recently. We now see evidence suggesting that estrogen may also play a role in the development of prostate conditions including prostate cancer, one of the most common forms of cancer in men.
She explains that estrogen accumulation can be related to both stress and xenoestrogens — substances that originate outside the body that have an estrogenic-like effect. According to...
What about relationships, love and marriage can we learn from the popular TV series, Downton Abbey? For this special Halloween episode of Global TV's The Morning Show, Jess, Carolyn, Jeff dressed up in their finest aristocratic fashion and sat down to discuss further. Check out Jess' notes and video segment below.
1. You can grow in love. You don’t have to fall head over hells from the onset.
We see this in Lord and Lady Grantham’s marriage, which was one of economics to begin with, but develops into an exceptional love marriage. They even sleep in the same bed, which was rare for folks in their position at the time.
We see a similar connection develop between Mary and Matthew. Their potential marriage is also one of economic necessity — he’s the heir to the family fortune and there is pressure to marry him to keep the fortune. She dislikes and judges him harshly with prejudice at first. They’re not aligned...
This week's Sexuality Superhero is Davia Frost. Although Davia is based in Chicago, this advocate for sexual health education shares her knowledge to community health organizations, classes, lectures and coaching lessons across the world. She is the founder and owner of Frosted Pleasure, and offers sensual workshops at Chicago's The Pleasure Chest. Learn more about Davia below!
How did you find yourself working in the sexuality field?
For me my relationship with my sexuality started pretty young compared to most. Even with my parents being very religious and patriarchal people from Jamaica, I was so intrigued by bodies and any romantic scenes on TV and wanted to learn so much more. I would even reenact scenes I would see with my Barbies, I remember just wanting to be a voyeur just so I could see everything that was going on sensually and sexually. Back in the AOL days, I would be a voyeur also, by watching closely to the words as people I’ve never met engaged in...
Read through these top tips for maintaining happy, healthy relationships during the festive season:
Share the Love
Money can buy you happiness...as long as you’re giving it away. Research shows that spending on others, volunteering, and supporting charities can actually improve your well-being and boost your happiness. What a perfect win-win scenario!
Choose your favourite charity and collaborate with loved ones to donate a few hours or dollars to brighten the holiday season for those in need. Banding together for a worthy cause is not only a great way to give back to your community, but can deepen the connection you share with one another.
Put Your Health First
It is common for most of us to ditch our workouts and unbuckle our belts as we wolf down (more than) a few extra desserts and cocktails over the holidays. While making exceptions and indulging in the deliciousness of the season is just fine, the sudden change in routine can have a detrimental impact...